Be the Real You

Be the real you. We’ve all heard this before and probably thought, “What a lot of hippy hogwash! You can be the real you – if you have enough money to be comfortable and you don’t have to answer to other people.” But there, my friends, is exactly where our collective mindset is wrong. We are willingly handing over our life’s wheel to other people and letting them determine our destination. The fear is dictating who you are becoming.

Individuality is a value that I hold in the highest regard. I dance to the beat of my own drum, stand up for my views and believe I am solely responsible for my own destiny. Truth be told, this attitude has probably been to my own detriment over the years. I’m sure that a couple of people think I’m a total jerk – and I probably am one sometimes – but at least I know I’m being authentically me.

However, I wasn’t always like this. In my late teens and early twenties, I did an exceptional amount of soul-searching and pondering, yet I asked the wrong questions for so long. The problem was: I wanted to know who I was expected to be, rather than who I was and wanted to be.

Then, I read Chuck Palahniuk’s Fight Club (it’s not about the actual fighting, but the underlying moral of the story) and it opened up my mind unlike anything else I’ve ever experienced. People hype up stuff like this as life-changing and a godlike intervention, but I wouldn’t go as far as saying that. In short, the book was an epiphany that inspired me to take action and change my life. It spoke to me on so many levels, and took all of the inexplicable, jumbled up thoughts in my head and summed it up with these two pertinent quotes:
Fight Club quote 2

You see, in this great game of life, we’re always stuck in a never-ending rat race, chasing after dreams constructed by somebody else’s version of success. We’re told that we need to be in X position by Y age. Our minds are indoctrinated with the beliefs that we need to tolerate bad behaviour, reward mediocrity and agree with people (even if we really don’t) to stand any chance of climbing up this imaginary ladder to the top. But honestly, what’s on top of the world when you get there, especially if you’ve sacrificed the essence of your being in the process? It’s a lonely place. Even more so, if you’re stuck up there with people who don’t know the real person beneath the surface.

I guess the overall point of this post is to encourage everyone to look deep inside and let the real you be the only you. Nothing ever comes easy and it’s completely against the grain, but you need to appreciate your value and self-worth if you ever want others to do the same. You are the architect of your own life, and compromising on your standards will lead to a feeling of hopelessness and unhappiness. If you aren’t you, then who are you?

One thought on “Be the Real You

  1. I really like the quote about losing everything,,,I’m a recovering alcoholic,,,I lost everything this last time,,,,even my mother. I’ve been clean and sober for 19 months. Yes some times we must loose everything,,,

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