When I first started thinking about positive mental attitude (PMA) and how it applies to writers, I actually found myself writing about something that applies to life overall. So, consider this more of a general piece than just a writer-centric one.
I used to be a very pessimistic and negative person, and it affected my outlook on life, severely. I’d give up on things before I’d even start due to the fear of failure.
However, one day, I looked in the mirror and decided that I needed to change my attitude for myself. No one was stopping me from achieving anything; no one was actually telling me that I sucked; in fact, I was the only one holding myself back. I was a self-defeatist.
From that day onwards, I’ve tried to maintain a positive mental attitude about life, and put faith in my abilities, hard work, and the premise that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes, there are days when life can get me down, but I quickly slap myself out of it and try to find the silver lining, instead of dwelling on all the negative emotions.
Changing my mindset has also enabled me to step back and examine why many of us become so absorbed by negativity. The answer is simple: it’s all around us.
Take the Internet, for example. I’ve noticed a very disturbing trend. People hardly have anything positive to add to a conversation; yet will always make sure that negativity is spewed if the opportunity arises. Some even have a sickness whereby they’ll scour the Internet for things, which they hold no interest in, just to tell everyone how bad it is (they will actively search for a forum about something that they already dislike to pointlessly complain about it). It isn’t even trolling, which is done more for eliciting a knee-jerk reaction from others, or even constructive criticism; it’s far more hateful.
We live in a hate culture, where people spend so much of their lives hating things, instead of finding love for what motivates us. Instead of seeking happiness, misery is promoted.
Psychologists have often said that by bringing something down, it could make someone feel better about their own life. But wouldn’t achieving something in YOUR own life be more meaningful than bring down someone else’s? Is spitefulness a way to happiness? Maybe if you’re a psychopath…
I’m not saying that you must praise everything out there. What I’m saying is this: Celebrate what you love, and leave the rest alone. If you don’t like it, ignore it. There’s no point in telling everyone why you hate something. Let them discover and feel things on their own.
We’ve all been guilty of being trapped in the hate culture at some point or another, but maybe it’s high time that we change this?